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I have to admit that I have written some fairly controversial comments sometimes about weddings, but according to most of the mail I receive about what I write, the majority are on my side---bring elegance, glamour and manners back to weddings!

Your letters and comments are encouraging. I get stopped on the street quite frequently and I have to say thank you for your wonderful support. Most of you are glad for the etiquette tips and have positive things to say about my getting down on the drinking, cash bars, tacky dress code, and general lack of sophistication among guests.

We are a world that basically can have anything we want, so why are we stuck on "white-trash" behavior? (Ouch---that hurts!)

I was at a wedding a few months ago--a guest--where the bride yelled at her flower girl for not standing quiet (try asking any 3 year old to stand for 20 minutes in a very still and quiet position); yelled and called her names! I wanted to cry. The flower girl did, didn't walk down the aisle and the bride proclaimed her wedding ruined!

A few weeks before that, a groom arrived late to the start of his own wedding. When asked where he was and why he wasn't answering his cell phone he replied, "I was finishing my last hole of golf and didn't want to be interrupted!" (I will let you interrupt that one---it needs no comment from me!)

Bad manners, a me-me-me syndrome, I want it all no matter who I have to hurt to get it, and why can't people notice me! It makes me sad to see people act this way. And it makes me even sadder when it happens at weddings. Luckily, this is not the norm at all weddings. Actually, most of my weddings are beautiful, heart-felt, and sincere. Good thing---an incurable romantic needs her shot of romance every once in a while.